For all my awesome peeps out there single, married, "its complicated" and in-between
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Sunday, 26 February 2017
Your relationship status does not define you ........
For all my awesome peeps out there single, married, "its complicated" and in-between
Sunday, 15 January 2017
Wednesday, 11 January 2017
Saturday, 7 January 2017
10 Things Guys Actually Want In A Wife.
1. Someone who has drive and ambition
and doesn’t just sit around posting selfies after selfies tagged #grateful or #weekendmode
2. Someone who supports him even when he
has crazy ideas like quitting his job and using a huge chunk of the
family savings to start a business.
3. Someone he can be vulnerable with and
trust with all his secrets, dreams and desires and also his fears.
4. Someone who loves to spend time with
him but is independent enough to go out on their own once in a while.
5. Someone he can have mind-blowing sex
with.
6. Someone who accepts that he’s a
work-in progress.
7. Someone who will not give up easily
on them because, like him, they believe that their relationship is for keeps.
8. Someone who keeps surprising him (in
a good way) by growing as a person and gaining new experiences.
9. Someone who speaks their mind and is
not just a yes man or yes woman rather.
10.Someone
who loves him as he is, doesn’t try to change him and lets him be himself
whilst helping him be the best version of himself possible.
Friday, 26 August 2016
Sunday, 7 August 2016
Premature Ejaculation a.k.a. 2 Minute Noodle
Premature ejaculation (PE) is the most
common of the three ejaculation problems in men. It is when the man finishes
within minutes or sometimes even within seconds of starting in other words the
sex is over before it even begins. It can be a real relationship killer and a
real knock on the man’s confidence. Often the woman says “its ok baby” but he can
see the disappointment in her eyes. However, if it continues to occur the woman
can get very impatient as she gets ever more sexually frustrated and this can
lead to all sorts of other problems including infidelity, arguments etc.
Also occasionally there could be
episodes of premature ejaculation i.e. sometimes your lover boy with the
stamina of a stallion might turn into the one-minute man, this is nothing to be
concerned about as its quite normal to have a few off days here and there.
So what causes premature
ejaculation?
1. Overactive
or underactive thyroid gland
3. Using recreational
drugs such as opoids, weed/ganga/skunk/igbó/ cannabis/Indian hemp and whatever other
name it goes by.
4. Alcohol
5. Stress
6. Relationship
problems -this can be a vicious cycle because PE can cause relationship
problems which in itself can cause PE.
7. Depression
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Masturbate/knock one hour or two before having
sex. I don't usually advocate masturbation but it does have its place in a relationship.
·
The SSRI
(selective serotonin re-uptake inhibitors) group of antidepressants. This is an
unlicensed use of these medicines i.e. when the medicines are used for purposes
other than what they are marketed for. Recently though one SSRI has been
licensed and released solely for the treatment not the cure of PE, Priligy a.k.a dapoxetine. Basically you take it
a couple of hours before you expect to have sex and it should make you last a
little longer. I should stress that it doesn’t work for everyone as studies
have shown that it works for about 40% of men who have taken it. It can cause
side effects such as insomnia, headaches, diarrhoea, dry mouth and nausea.
If you are experiencing
PE talk to your partner about it and allow her to talk to you
about how she feels. It’s better if you both deal with it together and find a solution
together.
8. Feeling
under pressure to perform especially if relationship is new.
9. Having an extra
sensitive penis
10.
Strict upbringing and beliefs about sex.
11.Bad habits picked from earlier sexual
experiences e.g. if a man as teenager has conditioned himself to ejaculate quickly
before he’s caught masturbating he will take this into a relationship and could
find it difficult to unlearn this habit.
12.A traumatic sexual experience from childhood.
What to do about premature
ejaculation.
You could
·
Use a thick condom or where two condoms to
reduce the sensation this means you can spend more time satisfying your partner
and then when you feel she’s satisfied you can strip down to one condom, if
using that as a means of contraception, or take it off if regular partner so you
can finish off as well.
·
Go to couples’ therapy to help you deal with
any relationship issues that could be the cause
Other things you try include
·
Using local anaesthetic gel or spray just
before sex. I would not recommend this though because as it can dull the
sensation for you it can also dull the sensation for her and also it can cause
skin irritation such as intense itching, redness and soreness in both of you.
·
Use love condoms. These condoms contain a benzocaine, a local anaesthetic. Although this can make you last
longer and not cause your partner skin irritation, it could very well leave you
with a sore penis so use with caution. Durex Extended Pleasure condom is an example.
Sunday, 17 July 2016
Facts you didnt know about the hymen a.k.a cherry- FYI its not related to sex like you think.
Now let’s set the record straight on the hymen a.k.a cherry and virginity. For many years we have considered the hymen to be synonymous with virginity. We believe that the hymen is torn the first time a woman has sex and thus some bleeding and pain occurs. And if a woman’s hymen is torn then she is definitely not a virgin and after the first sexual experience the hymen disappears into oblivion. Sound familiar? Here are some facts I bet you didn’t know.
1. The hymen does not totally
Cover Your Vagina
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| The various types of hymen |
2. The hymen is at the entrance
of the vagina.
Most people think the hymen is
tucked away deep inside the vagina and can only be reached by penetration by a
penis. In fact, this couldn't be more wrong because it is right at the opening
of the vagina, which kind of explains the confusion about virginity and the
hymen.
3. The hymen has serves no purpose
in adulthood.
Experts are not sure what the
purpose of the hymen is in adults. It is believed that the hymen acts as a
barrier in a developing baby protecting it getting vaginal infections when in
the womb. In adults the hymen doesn't seem to have a function like the
appendix.
Another misconception is that the
first time a girl or woman has sexual intercourse the tissue breaks. But the hymen
will either stretch or tear a bit in one
or two places. Often with no bleeding and little or no pain. There are other
ways your hymen can tear besides sex such as rigorous exercise, gymnastics, dancing,
horseback riding, cycling, using tampons, pelvic examination etc. As a matter
of fact, in some girls the hymen may be stretched or torn during childhood from
the activities mentioned.
5. You Might Not Know When It
Breaks
If the hymen does tear
during sex, you may find intercourse painful and experience bleeding but if the
tear occurs during other activities you may not even be aware of it. You might
bleed a little and but it down to spotting due to your period.
6. The hymen doesn’t always break
when you have sex.
You often hear about the hymen
breaking with first intercourse. It can happen, but if a woman is relaxed
during intercourse and has good lubrication and she or her partner has tried to
stretch the hymen with fingers, then it likely won't break. So, you can't tell
for sure if someone is a virgin if they have a hymen.
7. The hymen is there for life.
After it breaks the hymen just
goes off to the side of the vagina and is never dealt with again but it doesn’t disappear. Although in women who have given birth vaginally, you can't actually tell where the hymen would have been.
Sunday, 12 June 2016
Kama Sutra Techniques That Gives The Missionary Position A Zing
These six ideas from Kama
Sutra will show you more exciting ways to insert your penis to make the
missionary position even hotter.
Kama Sutra Technique: Churning
Grasp your penis in your hand
at the base, then move it in circles inside her vagina.
The sensitivity of her vaginal
wall varies in different areas, so by circling all of it, you can explore new
hot spots.
Kama Sutra Technique: Rubbing
You may have been told that
you should always aim for the front wall of her vagina, where her G-spot
lies. While many woman love that move, aiming for the back side of her vagina
creates a totally different sensation—she may enjoy that for a change, too.
While in missionary position,
thrust your penis in a downward direction rather then upward. Keep your
thrusting short and sharp rather than plunging deeply.
Kama Sutra Technique: Piercing
Have her keep her hips low as
she lies on her back. Climb on top with your body higher up than you would
usually be, so that your shoulders are lined up with her head.
As you thrust in and out, your
penis will slip back and forth along her clitoris, providing extra stimulation
for her. Take it slow and easy.
Kama Sutra Technique:
Buffeting
As you thrust, pull out
completely and then penetrate again with a fast, hard stroke.
Lots of women love this move
because it’s primitive and animalistic, combining teasing and lusty
thrusting.
Kama Sutra Technique: Boar’s
Blow
As you thrust in and out while
in missionary position, aim your penis to your left or your
right, putting continuous pressure on one side of her vagina.
You might find this one a
little uncomfortable or not either way it will be fun to find out.
Kama Sutra Technique: Sporting
of a Sparrow
Make rapid, shallow in-an-out
strokes without ever fully removing your penis. For many women, the first inch
or so of the vagina is the most sensitive.
Saturday, 5 December 2015
10 Things I bet you didnt know your vagina can do
I bet you didn’t know your vagina can
1.Expand during sex.
Ever wondered how it can seem pretty shallow when you're
putting in a tampon but can also accommodate even a well-endowed guy? It's called
vaginal tenting. When you are turned on a lot of blood flows to your vagina and
the blood vessels become dilated causing the vagina to become larger in length
and width. The more turned on you are the larger it gets.
2.Have four (yes four)
different types of orgasm.
Another reason I’m glad I’m a woman. We can have vaginal,
clitoral, blended and multiple orgams.
- Clitoral: when you orgasm via clitoral stimulation alone without penetration
- Vaginal: when you orgasm via vaginal penetration.
- Blended: when you have clitoral and vaginal orgasm
- Multiple: or like I like to call it the Big O, when you slightly relax after one orgasm and then get aroused again resulting in multiple experiences of orgasmic pleasure in rapid succession. I have experienced this and it is ….. wow (that’s the only way I can describe it).
3.Clean itself.
That’s what vaginal discharge is for. The discharge flushes
out bacteria and old cells to protect the womb. So just leave you hoo-ha to do
its thing because many intravaginal products and washes can increase your risk
of bacterial and yeast infections by throwing your pH levels out of whack. Just stick to regular soap and water, and let your lady parts do their own thing. And
for goodness sake do not douche, its sounds like a good idea but you will
regret it.
4.Get stronger
With Pelvic floor exercises to help with bladder control. See
my post of the pelvic floor exercises and stronger vaginal muscles http://junesecrets.blogspot.co.uk/2015/07/junes-secrets-tio-balls-best-kept-open.html
5. Talk to you
It tells you when it's baby-making time, period time or even
when there's a serious health risk like cancer potentially going on. Your vagina
has a lot to tell you, you just have to make sure you’re listening.
6.Protect itself
Contrary to what some people believe, the vagina is not and
endless tunnel that things can get lost in, not tampons, condoms or menstrual
cups. The vagina connects to the womb but the cervix acts like a barrier
between the two. It would be very difficult for anything to get through the tiny
cervical opening that’s anything larger than sperm.
7.Trap a penis
I’m just as shocked as you. I have seen this before but only
in African movies and it’s usually as a result of some African voodoo when a
man or woman is trying to teach their cheating partner a lesson. But apparently
it’s a phenomenon aptly named penis captivus. It’s rare but it’s real. Basically,
what happens is that during sex the vaginal muscles clamp down firmly on the
penis making it difficult or impossible to remove the penis from the vagina. If
this happens you need a doctor not sure how you will get yourself to the
hospital though.
8.Change colour.
It doesn’t stay the same colour it started with. During sex
and pregnancy more blood flow to the vagina will cause a colour change to
a darker shade than before. Then after menopause when oestrogen is lost the colour
changes again to a lighter or duller shade than before.
9. Push out a baby
The vagina can allow a 10-plus-pound baby to come through it
and still come back to a normal size. The healing process generally takes about
six months post-baby, but that's still pretty impressive considering what the
body part went through. (Nodding my head in amazement now)
10 Have two of them
Its rare but it is possible to be born with two wombs. The
vagina essentially splits into two separate cavities. Two wombs means two
cervixes but a normal amount of fallopian tubes and eggs and so sadly two periods
each month but not necessarily twins.
Friday, 27 November 2015
9 things you didn't know about sex.
1. You have two doors in your Vajayjay. So you can get pregnant even if you pee immediately after sex. You do not pee from the same opening you
have sex with. However it is important to wee just after sex to reduce the risk
of a urinary tract infection.
2. Crocodile poo used to be used as contraception. Eewww!! but I suspect
it would have been very effective as the use of poo, crocodile or not, will put
anyone off sex altogether. I would put a disclaimer advising you not to try this at home but where in the world will you get crocodile poo from in Nigeria.
3. Washing the vagina with Coca Cola or vinegar after unprotected sex
will not prevent pregnancy but might give the woman an infection and she might
still get pregnant. Just stop being cheap and take the morning after pill or
better still don’t have unprotected if you don’t want to make a baby. If you
are not on the pill or coil then make sure to take an umbrella whenever you go
out in the rain in other words use a condom.
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5. Ejaculated sperm can live up to 5 days in the female body and might
even be able fertilise an egg.
6. HIV is not the only incurable STD. Herpes and HPV (human papilloma
virus) are also incurable.
7. STDs like HPV, gonorrhoea, syphillis, herpes and hepatitis b can be
transmitted via oral and anal sex as well as vaginal sex.
8. Every second counts. A woman's orgasm can last a couple of seconds
longer than a man's which lasts between 10-15 seconds. Yes it's only a few
seconds more but when it comes climaxing every second you remain in cloud nine
freaking counts.
9. Semen contains calories. I personally wouldn't swallow sperm but some
of y'all do and that's fine but if you're on a diet you might want to
reconsider because each teaspoon of semen contains 5 calories. It’s not a lot, I
know, but worth knowing.
Small Penis.
I would like
to know how to make my penis larger. I'm not 100 % happy with what I have
got because I feel it is small. I would like it a little larger than it is. A.M
Hello A.M and thank you for your question. You would be surprised
to know that a lot of men ask this very question so you are not alone. Many men
worry that there penis is too small when their penis is actually a normal size.
As the saying goes it's not about the size it's about how you use it. If you’re
overweight, losing weight will make your penis look larger. This is because the
fat around your stomach may hide some of the base of your penis. Exercising
more will not only help you get in shape, but it can improve your self-esteem
and help your sex life.
However if you are convinced that your penis is on the small side
and you are not overweight and exercise regularly and want to increase the size then you can try the
following options.
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| Penis enlarger pump |
1. A vacuum pump. This involves using a vacuum pump to encourage more
blood into the penis thereby making is become more engorged than it normally
would be when erect hence making it appear larger. This is a temporary fix as
the blood will eventually drain out of the penis. There are quite a few on the
market ranging from £17 to £70. But they all work with the same principle. We
like the Ann summers penis enlarger pump for £17. They are not painful to use just a little uncomfortable. If you are in
London then purchase online or in store and if in Nigeria purchase via
www.nuerasshoppingmall.com for delivery to you in Africa, they have a personal
shopping service that you can use if you need help.
2. Other non surgical techniques include pills, supplements and
creams for which there is very little evidence of efficacy.
3. A surgical procedure to increase the length. This involves cutting
the suspensory ligament. This ligament joins the penis to the pelvic area and
supports the penis in an upright position when it’s erect. When the ligament is
cut, the penis hangs lower, which can make it look longer. However, cutting the
ligament may also cause the penis to point downwards when erect. A study in
2006 found that this procedure led to an average increase of 1.3cm in penis
length. However, only 35% of men who had the operation were happy with the
results. So seriously consider before you go down this route. The surgery is expensive and not without risks.
4.Surgical procedure to increase the girth (thickness) of the penis. This can
involve injecting fat taken from elsewhere in the body into the penis. There’s
a risk that the penis may look uneven or lumpy, and there may be scarring. The
injected fat can also disappear over time and the penis revert to its original
girth. Very little evidence has been published on the long-term effectiveness
and risks of this technique. So in effect if you choose this option you will be
flying blind into the unknown.
For tips on the be best sexual positions to maximum a 'small penis' visit
Sunday, 27 September 2015
Rules For Marriage : Part Two
11. Always give each other a hug and a kiss before
leaving the house.
12.Never keep secrets from each other.
13.When your other half speaks listen with
your heart as well as your ears.
14. Appreciate
and keep replaying the good times, forgive and constantly choose to forget the
bad ones.
15.Never say “Fine” or “it’s all my fault” if
you really don’t mean it.
16.
Always
sleep in the same bed every night even after an arguement.
17. Avoid talking
about mistakes of the past.
18. Set out ‘us’ time every week.
19. Be sacrificial by going out of your way to
do things for each other such as a husband watching a chick flick and a wife,
who isn’t into football, watching football enthusiastically.
20.Read a few books about marriage together.
Copyright June's Secrets 2015
Sunday, 13 September 2015
Rules For Marriage: Part One
1. Never both be angry at the same time
2.Never yell at each other unless the house
is on fire
3.If one of you has to win an argument, let
it be your spouse
4.
If you
have to criticise, do it lovingly and in private
5.No negative throwbacks. Never bring up mistakes of
the past.
6. Neglect
the whole world rather than each other
7. Never go
to sleep with an argument unsettled
8. Pay your spouse a compliment at least once a day
9. When you have done something wrong, admit
it and apologise
10.It takes
two to make a quarrel successful and the one in the wrong is usually the one
who does the most talking.
Wednesday, 26 August 2015
Marriage: Its TeamWork Not Competitive Sport
Competitive
Mindset
·
She/He needs to
say I’m sorry before I’ll speak to her/him again.
·
I’m going to
teach him a lesson, he’s definitely not “getting any” for a week.
I am right, I’m always right and he/she has to come round to my way of thinking even if I have to make ram it down her/his throat.
·
It’s my way or
the highway
·
I am a better
parent than she/he is.
·
I should have
listened to my mother, she told me not to marry her/him.
·
This is outside
our budget and a bit over the top but I’m going to buy it anyway and I don’t
need to check in with her/him first after all it’s my money.
· I really don't like his/her family, I can’t stand them and
I will not make any effort to get on with them.
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Team
Mindset
·
We need to talk
and resolve the issue so we don’t go to bed angry.
·
I am not going
to make him/her pay a price for not agreeing with me. Withholding sex is
manipulative.
·
We don’t see
this the same way so we will just agree to disagree.
I am willing to compromise and meet him/her halfway We need to talk about our vision for our children so that we are on the same page when parenting them. Being critical of each other is bad for our home. My marriage is blessed and I am with the person I am supposed to be with. He/she’s not perfect but neither am I.
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I will just run
this by him/her before I spend this amount of money to make sure its ok with
them because regardless of who earns what its OUR money and I value his/her
opinion.
·
His/ her family
is part of who he/she is and I might not get on with them but I will at least
make an effort for his/her sake.
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