Sunday, 25 October 2015
Saturday, 24 October 2015
Instead Of Hating Her Copy Her.
Now ladies lets talk woman to
woman, we are sometimes the ones that bring all these husband cheating things
on ourselves. When the man was chasing you, you made sure you were a 10 and now
after marriage you let yourself become a 5.5 and don't give me the excuse of
childbirth or work. We let ourselves go. We don't wear clothes that our man
will see us in and suddenly start speaking in tongues. We don't wear nightwear
and underwear that makes him call out your name in his sleep. It's not about
sex it's about reminding him that, as my sister would say, your market still
dey sell.
It doesn't matter how
spirit-filled, tongue speaking, decent and loving your husband is, he is still
a man and they are visual. I always say if my husband and I are walking down
the street and a good looking girl walks past us and my husband doesn't look
from the corner of his eye (I'm not talking about him turning around and
looking cos that's just downright disrespectful to me), then he's up to no
good. It's not something they can control which is great for us ladies because
we can take advantage of it. If you have not been taking advantage of it then
stop dulling and start because whilst you're busy tying wrapper up and down and
doing baby nurse one sisi is scattering your husband's head prancing around
with her hot pants, skinny jeans and bodycon dress. It is your God given right to take
advantage of it.
Instead of looking at the good
looking girl that caught my husbands eye and thinking 'heffa (that's my way of
saying biatch, and yes I meant to spell it that way) like I used to, I now take
a good look at her so that I can copy her style. Sometimes I even stop her and ask her where she got her outfit from.
When you're home swap your
wrapper for hot pants and if you cannot fit into hot pants because of your size
then loose weight and if cannot loose weight get normal pants by the time you
wear them they will become hot, same as with skinny jeans, get the normal jeans
by the time those your ‘blessed’ thighs enter them they will become skinny by
force.
All I'm saying is instead of
cursing out the other woman why not take a leaf out of her book and do what she
did that caught your man's eye.
Copyright June's Secrets 2015
Friday, 23 October 2015
Wednesday, 21 October 2015
Trust Me You Don't Know What He's Really Thinking!!!!!
I heard a preacher once say that if you want to really know what a person is thinking wait until they are angry.
I always tell Seyi that he talks
a lot but he doesn't really say much. He talks about everything, the weather,
politics, the children, in-laws and outlaws but never about what is going on in
his mind, his hurts, worries or even just crazy thoughts that come into his
head (we all get at least one per day), like he did when we first started
dating. But when we get into an argument, bam, it all comes pouring out. And
this really scatters my body.
I get things like "you know
that dress you wore to church on Sunday, I didn't like it, it looked like a freaking curtain and whilst we're on the subject I don't like that your makeup (that I've
been wearing for a year now o) it makes you look two shades darker and
when are you going to get a wax girl it's like sambisa forest down there, I mean you can braid it" And
I'm stood there in shock thinking kai so this na wetin this guy dey carry for
mind since, ha na wa o? Why didn’t he even say anything all this time and more to the
point (this is what really ticks me off) I thought was sharp but I didn’t even
pick up on all this. I always thought I could read him like a book (Hian, I
wonder what else I’m missing). He always apologises afterwards but it still
doesn't explain why he doesn't just say how he feels in normal conversations,
why he only truly expresses himself in an argument. I know what you're
thinking, maybe I don't make him feel like he can. And you’re probably half
right.
I keep expecting my husband to
react to situations like I or one of my girlfriends would but he's a different
species entirely. And don't just volunteer information about their feelings,
they have to be probed specifically for information in an environment where
they feel safe. Don’t just assume that your husband will automatically feel
'safe' to share his deepest thoughts with you. You have to make him feel safe
by telling him that he is and that there won't be a price to pay for his
honesty. Then you must follow through, don't act like a heffa after you've told
him he's safe just because you didn't like what he said, take it like a big
girl. Just to be clear by acting like a heffa I mean insult him and his mother
or point out his own faults or be moody or stop talking to him or my personal
favourite withhold sex ( guilty as charged, I'm still a work in progress).
The way you ask the question will determine
the answer you get. Don’t drop hints, just ask directly what you want to know, for
example like say "babe do you think
this lipstick is too dark/light for me?" as opposed to "babe how do I
look in this lipstick".
Also if you really want the truth
say this "babe when you open up to me emotionally, it really turns me
on" but then you have to follow through and rock his world.
In conclusion, just as women can
keep secrets so can men and don’t be over confident or rely completely in your
ability to read him like a book because, like me, you will definitely miss a
few things.
Copyright June’s Secrets 2015
Sunday, 18 October 2015
Candida- Do You Have It????
What is it?
This is a form of yeast that lives in our mouths and
intestines. It’s part of our natural flora and helps with digestion and
absorption of food. Sometimes candida is overproduced, due to a reduction in
the population of the good bacteria, breaking down the intestinal wall and
escaping into the blood stream and releasing toxic by-products, which can lead
to many different health problems.
What causes it?
A reduction in the number of good bacteria in the gut will
lead to the overproduction of candida. This can be caused by any of the
following:
·
Taking
strong antibiotics that in addition to getting rid of the bad bacteria, also
get rid of the good ones that keep the candida growth in check. ( so always a
good idea to take probiotics after a course of antibiotics)
·
Consuming
a lot of alcohol
·
Taking
oral contraceptives
·
Stressful
lifestyle
·
Eating
a lot of fermented foods
What does it look like?
·
Chronic
fatigue – if you have fatigue or exhaustion that you cannot shake regardless of
how much sleep you get.
·
Mood
disorders – Not all irrational behaviour is due to your period. You may
experience dramatic mood swings, anxiety, irritability, depression and even
panic attacks. (don’t know about you but that kinda sounds like me just before my
period)
·
Recurring
urinary tract and vaginal infections and also rectal and vaginal itching.
·
Oral
thrush
·
Sinus
infections – this can present as persistent cough, increase in congestion,
seasonal allergies, itchy ears and general flu-like symptoms.
·
Intestinal
disturbances - like persistent
flatulence, burping, bloating, constipation or diarrhoea, and stomach cramps. (
I’m thinking this could explain a lot about my husband’s toilet habits).
·
Brain
fog – candida overgrowth can cause lack of focus, poor physical coordination,
difficulty in concentrating on tasks and poor memory.
·
Skin
and nail fungal infections – recurring athlete’s foot and fungus toenail
infections, eczema, psoriasis and rashes may be a sign of systemic candida
infection.
·
Hormonal
imbalance – leading to early menopause, PMS, loe sex drive, migraines,
endometriosis, water retention, mood swings and inability to lose weight.
How do I get rid of it without meds?
To successfully treat candida, you need to do two main
things:
1.
Stop
the yeast overgrowth- you can achieve this by switching to a low-carbohydrate
diet and staying away from fermented foods. That includes palmie for those of
us that like to indulge in the local alcohol.
2.
Build-up
the friendly bacteria – you can achieve this by taking probiotic yoghurt.
However using diet alone could take up to 6 months before the
candida population is brought under control.
I have tried without meds but it’s still there…..
·
Taking
anti-fungals such as diflucan (fluconazole) or nystatin for at least a month
should cut down the candida population by killing them.
·
Caprylic
acid, a supplement made from coconut oil will help kill the candida by
destrying the protective wall around them.
Taking probiotics capsules such as Biokult
regularly will help increase the population of the good bacteria especially
after a course of antibiotics.Copyright June's Secrets 2015
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